I was talking with my friend on the phone the other day, and he mentioned that he enjoyed reading my article about siblings. He then suggested that I write something about what a great friend he was.
After I got done laughing and then telling him that his shameless efforts to have a special article about him will never come to fruition. I started to think…
…maybe he was right.
I live in California now. But, I am originally from New York. So…most of my friends live back on the East Coast. And when I say most. I mean… pretty much all of them.
This particular friend has been my buddy for over 30 years. We are very different from one another. And, we have lived in separate cities, states, or countries for the better part of our adult lives. Yet, he is still my very good friend. And he probably will be until the day I die.
There is something to be said about that kind of friendship. One that is timeless. In fact, I have several very good friends that I consider life-long pals. And they know who they are. These particular friends of mine are loyal, trustworthy, and most of all – they are good people.
Now that I am a grown-up. A fact that I can no longer deny. It is harder to meet true friends. A lot of people in their adult years have no interest or time to meet new friends. Or they have an agenda, and once you have fulfilled their agenda, they move on. Or, they are just plain and simple users. Only being your friend until you give them what they seek.
But…along the way. Whether it be when you are 10, 30 or 70 years old. You meet certain kindred spirits.
Guys and gals that truly get…where you’re coming from…and what you have to offer.
These people are unique. And, today, I want to thank them, and let them know that I recognize how special they are.
Categories: Ideas, Inspiration
I have a far away friend in Phoenix, AZ.
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Your blog came by way of a friend telling me, and you are an attorney and I love law. I live in Chicago suburb so I have not found work in paralegal but Love it. I had to stop to see what you write. You are a great writer
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Thank you! Great to meet you. 🙂
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true… true friends are hard to come by.
btw.. Thank you for following my blog.
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Hi! Thanks for the comment, and reading my article. Have a terrific day…
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Friends are definitely hard to come by. You need to hold onto the ones you’ve got. Sadly, most of my “friends” are former work acquaintances and not what I would call friends who you would hang out with or turn to in times of trouble. My brothers are my best friends. They’ve been there throughout and always will be.
PS…Thanks for following my blog. Really dig your photography and uplifting posts here.
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Thanks for the comment! I see that you are a Patriots fan. I won’t hold it against you haha. I’m a NY Giants fan. I went to college in MA. My sister lives there. What part are you from?
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I lived in Franklin and Needham, MA, growing up. Live in Tenn. now, but Boston sports teams are in my blood.
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Thank you for following my blog. Wonderful post! 🙂 You made some keen observations about friendship. Like you, I find that true friends are harder to find as I get older. Over the years, I have met people who seem to be interested in becoming friends. They give me their contact information and then I never hear from them again. Or I try to contact them and then never hear back from them. I have become used to people drifting in and out of my life. I was somewhat disappointed about this happening again and again until I finally realized that the people who truly care about me will return to me. They will find a way to keep in touch with me even if it is only an email or a Christmas card in the mail. Luckily for me a few kindred spirits have come back to me! And I do cherish their friendship. 🙂
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Thanks for this great and insightful comment! I enjoyed looking around your blog. Very nice site. 🙂
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You are welcome. I am glad that you enjoyed visiting my blog. Thanks for liking “Star Trails” and my “About” page. 🙂
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Certain people I meet– virtually or otherwise– give a sense of their true self. They are real– no fake facade. When I first started putting myself out there I made myself a conscious choice to always be me, take it or leave it. And when our (you and me) paths crossed I could tell right away you were genuine. I guess what I’m trying to say is, I’m happy we connected and grateful to call you a new friend.
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Thank you, Sue,. That is so nice to hear. I am glad we are friends, too! How are you holding up in NH after the storm? How much snow did you get? (Not to brag, but its 74 here today haha)
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Actually, up north (where I am) didn’t get as much as the coast. We got about a foot compared to the two feet on the coast. Another storm moves in Friday, and then Monday, and then Tuesday… it never ends. 74 sounds awesome right about now!
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Well…If you ever get sick of it, you and more than welcome to visit with us out here in SoCal!
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My brother-in-law lives in Cal. He’s got two places, one on Big Bear, next to Schwarzenegger and a few other celebrities. And the other I think is in central Cal. I’ve always wanted to visit the San Diego Zoo. Maybe we’ll take you up on that kind offer some day!
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Cool…yeah, we took our daughter to Big Bear last year. It’s beautiful there.
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You just explained the difference between friends and acquaintances very well.
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Thank you! I just spoke from the heart. I really appreciate the positive feedback 🙂
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you can’t pick your siblings, but certainly can pick your friends, many times good friends are closer to you (I do not mean physically closer) than siblings.
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You are absolutely right!
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😉 Glad I found your blog!
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I am too! Keep up the great work on your blog!
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A nice sentiment to hear expressed in a world where ‘unfriend’ made Oxford Dictionary’s word of the year :b
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Great point! Thanks for the comment. Have a great day!
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You too 🙂
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I have had one true friend through all these years.And your right .The others , I have met seem to be the type that have only been friends when they have achieved what they needed from me .
Then I guess those others in reality were never my friends
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I guess they may have thought they were friends. But we know what a true person is. Well, you’ve made a new friend today 🙂 Thanks for your comment and enjoying my article!
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Kindred spirits are the best thing this world has to offer. Soul to soul, mind to mind, body to body : simply true connection. Imagine a world full of kindred spirits. Wouldn’t that just be heaven on earth?
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It would be an amazing world! Thanks for your comment 🙂
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A timely reminder for me after a falling out — or maybe just taking a little break. Friendships can be work. Thanks!
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Yes, they can. I guess…ALL…relationships take work. Even with fellow bloggers! lol
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Reblogged this on Reality of Love Exposed .
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It is so much harder to make friends the older we get.
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Very true.
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Wonderful statements about the character of friendship and what it is about. When I read your words I see many of my friends right in front of my eyes. About some (or actually one) I am disappoined regarding the part of loyalty. This is right what seems the simple but nevertheless important basic of friendship: Honesty and Loyalty. A great tribute, Kevin!
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Thank you Erika! The older I get, the more I realize how rare it is to find true friends who are consistently there for you.
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Yes, the older we get the more we come back to the essentials of life, don’t we? Isn’t it cool that we are still not that old and still have time to enjoy those insights?
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Absolutely to both your questions. Thankfully, some form of wisdom enlightens us with plenty of time left here on earth…
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Yes, and the more we recognize that the more we open up to it, right? 🙂
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Very true. Once we begin to open ourselves up to the possibilities, great things begin to happen.
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Lovely tribute to “real friends” …distance does not measure that special connection. Thank you for sharing and for visiting my blog:) Oliana
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Thank you Oliana! I’m glad you enjoyed the post. Have a wonderful day!
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True, I lost most of my friends in last 2-3 years. Now, I have few friends but they are true ones. We all are in different parts of country, talk occasionally but that does not change the feelings even a bit. It just doesn’t matter.
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Yeah, I know what you mean. But it’s good to see you have some new friends that are true…By the way, I enjoy your blog! Keep up the good work!!
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I am extremely fortunate to count your sister and MaryBeth as life long friends! Couldn’t get by without them
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🙂 Thanks for the comment Christine! Tell Chris I said what’s up!
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I’m a transplant from New York who now lives in California, too! Home friends are the best! 🙂
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Yes they are 🙂
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This is so true. I have a couple of friends I don’t have to catch up with, even after years. We just are.
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Exactly…it’s as if you just saw one another. Even if it’s been 10 years.
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