our lives are filled with relationships. Some good. Some bad. And, some…confusing.
Relationships come in all forms –
– ranging from intimate to casual. But, regardless, of the degree of closeness, one fact remains. Relationships are a two-way street. Give and take.
Not a one-sided, give-all, take-all…thing.
Over the years, we come in contact, and make connections with, all sorts of people. A few of these relationships will stand the test of time, whereas most of these relationships will fizzle out.
That’s fine with me. But, what drives me crazy is this –
When people put little or no effort in maintaining and strengthening a relationship.
It seems that so many people will only continue with a relationship if it’s convenient. To have a true relationship – of any type – there needs to be an effort from both parties. Some sacrifices. Some compromises. And, some inconveniences.
Now, of course, I am fully aware that some relationships just come to an end – naturally. But, there are ones in which you know that there is a connection. And, that connection is readily apparent when you either see or talk with that person. Yet, when it comes down to that other person making some sort of effort, they vanish into the abyss.
I’ve been dumped before. And, that’s cool. I guess. Haha
But, I am not talking about that kind of abrupt end. I am truly speaking of relationships that endure a long, slow death despite having all the ingredients for success.
All the ingredients – except for one thing…a lack of willingness by one of the parties to treat the relationship as a living, breathing entity that needs to be nurtured.
I continually try to evaluate my approach to life. I sit back. Think. And, evaluate.
I have decided to dig deep down inside, and make more of an effort in my personal relationships. Because, I am far from perfect at maintaining them. Whether it is being too stubborn. Or holding a grudge. Or just being plain lazy. I need to improve my approach.
Maybe if we all took a moment to think about how we treat the people in our lives, we may think of ways in which we could improve those relationships. And, wouldn’t that be nice!
(P.S. I took that photograph of the waterfall at the Los Angeles County Arboretum and Botanic Garden. A really cool, and beautiful place.)