An Inspirational Open Letter to My Future Teenage Daughter (on Her 4th Birthday)

“Sienna” (Stevenson Ranch, CA)

My daughter Sienna just turned 4 years old. And, I want to do something special. So, I decided to write this letter. I’d love for her to read these inspirational words when she’s a teen. Those  amazing – but sometimes difficult – years.

Dear Sienna –

Wow. I can’t believe it. You’re a teenager.  Gone are the days of Minnie Mouse dresses. And you begging to watch 5 more minutes of My Little Pony.

You’ve grown into –  and continue to become –  a smart, fun and beautiful young woman. Words do no justice in explaining what you mean to me. My first child. My only daughter. My sunshine.

I wrote this letter when you turned 4. A magical age where you truly came into your own.

Who knows what crazy things have happened in this world in the last ten years. What kind of mess humankind has got themselves into. And technology. Oh boy. I can only imagine what now captivates our attention.

The teens are an interesting period in your life. You’re asserting your independence. But, you still need mom and dad for a lot of things. And we need you. Now, and always.

While you travel life’s path, always remember to seek happiness. And no matter what adventures you embark upon, know this. I will always have your back. No matter what.

When times are tough. And you feel sad. Or mad. Or just – stuck. I want you to read this letter. And remember these three things.

Be Empathetic

The world needs more empathy. So, before you judge others. Place yourself in their situation. That may be difficult. But, if you really want to connect with people. Do your best to see the world through their eyes.

No one says you have to agree with everyone. Or even like everyone. Just don’t judge too harshly or quickly. That kind of behavior gets us in trouble.

If you realize someone is not a right fit for you. That’s your prerogative. And if that’s the case. Just walk away.

But, always do your best to conduct yourself with respect and kindness. If you do that, you’ll lead a more fulfilling life.

Love Yourself

You are good enough. Always remember that. Never allow the doubters or haters to disrupt your self-esteem. Perfection does not exist. It’s a concept not grounded in reality.

Life will be great. Then hard. Then okay. Then, great again. And that’s how it goes. Truly, life is a roller coaster. Ups and downs. Circles. And loopity-loops.  But, through it all – you must love yourself.

And if you love yourself. The ups are grand. And the downs are not so bad.

Remember, my dear Sienna. You’re an amazing person, who will experience fantastic opportunities. Keep your head high. And your spirit even higher.

Have Fun

This should come as no surprise. But, for me. The most important lesson is this – have fun! And laugh. Don’t take life, or yourself, too seriously. If you can find the humor in any situation, then your life will be much smoother.

I know you well. You love life. And you love to laugh. So keep doing it. And show the world your beautiful smile!

Love Always –

Papa xoxoxox





146 replies »

  1. wow Kevin a powerful and thoughtful letter to your precious and beautiful daughter, she will cherish this and no doubt refer back to it many times … and I pray that many more teenagers might read and benefit from your loving parental wisdom! This is something everyone needs to read …

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  2. This is such a lovely heartfelt letter and so full of good advice as your beautiful daughter walks the path of life, she will turn into a beautiful balanced woman.

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  3. Wow kevin, great letter, I do hope Sienna will enjoy reading this when she is older !! My love to you and your family out of the Netherlands

    Hope to see you guys soon !!


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  4. I can’t come in to words how much this will mean to her, like I have a cousin the same age, don’t they just melt you’re heart? Being a father is so special, you’re a great guy Kevin keep up the good word, you will also make you’re daughter proud of the dad she has 😁⭐️

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